love..

love saving tips (?):

1. during an argument, keep to one topic and don't bring up past grievances
2. don't speculate motives or analyze character
3. instead of attacking negative behavior, ask for positive changes. be specific
4. respond directly to criticism without making counter charges. avoid rebuttal. listen
5. don't battle in public
6. never hit each other
7. don't walk out in the middle of a fight
8. never suggest ending the relationship

can this really save a relationship? hhmm...